Archive for December, 2009

Equality top concern for gay community – The Irish Times – Thu, Nov 12, 2009

It was “shameful” that almost a decade into the 21st century Irish citizens were still fearful about being marginalised at work because of their sexuality, and of being harassed, bullied or even violently attacked because of who they were.

A recent survey done by the National Gay and Lesbian Federation reported that the that the issues of most concern to the Irish gay and lesbian community are;
1. Equal rights at work,
2. Personal security,
3. Marriage equality,
4. Support for young LGBT people and,
5. Supports for people coming out.
I would not be surprised to find that the same concerns are relevant in the US. We have come so fare yet not anywhere fare enough!

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“Our time is distinguished by wonderful achievements in the fields of scientific understanding and the technical application of these insights.  Who would not be cheered by this?  But let us not forget that knowledge and skills alone cannot lead humanity to a happy and dignified life.  Humanity has every reason to place the proclaimers of high moral standards and values above the discovers of objective truth.  What humanity owes to personalities like Buddha, Moses, and Jesus ranks for me higher than all the achievements of the inquiring and constructive mind.” – Alber Einstein

some times i am so amazed with this mans brilliance that i forget his even greater wisdom.

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Rejection of Conversion Therapy

Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation; it cannot be classified as an illness; we consider it to be a variation of the sexual function

well hear is a blast from the past. Who do you think made this statement against conversation therapy?

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Face it: | HarvardScience

Gay men are most attracted to the most masculine-faced men, while straight men prefer the most feminine-faced women, according to the results of a new study by a Harvard researcher.

Not to be glib about the research but i think it comes down to gay men are attracted to men and strate men are attracted to woman.

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The Way We Live Now – What Gay Parenting Teaches Us All – NYTimes.com

children of same-sex parents are not markedly different from those of heterosexual parents. They show no increased incidence of psychiatric disorders, are just as popular at school and have just as many friends.

It’s great to find a well-researched, accessible article like this in public media.

You can also find more information at rmarcandrews.com.

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Glenn Shadix and Wayne Besen put ex-gay programs in their place

Why, a questioner asked, do these programs exist?”

A very sobering article about ex-gay treatment. Is it not a shame that in this day and age when we can explore the structure of the universe and understand the makeup of DNA. We still have to ask such a question as “Why, a questioner asked, do these programs exist?

Please read the article. http://www.examiner.com/x-17183-Birmingham-Gay-Community-Examiner~y2009m11d6-Glenn-Shadix-and-Wayne-Besen-put-exgay-programs-in-their-place And allow yourself to feel a little anger if it will motivate you not to sit by and let this happen to our brothers and sisters.

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Glenn Shadix and Wayne Besen put ex-gay programs in their place

Why, a questioner asked, do these programs exist?”

A very sobering article about ex-gay treatment. Is it not a shame that in this day and age when we can explore the structure of the universe and understand the makeup of DNA. We still have to ask such a question as “Why, a questioner asked, do these programs exist?

Please read the article. http://www.examiner.com/x-17183-Birmingham-Gay-Community-Examiner~y2009m11d6-Glenn-Shadix-and-Wayne-Besen-put-exgay-programs-in-their-place And allow yourself to feel a little anger if it will motivate you not to sit by and let this happen to our brothers and sisters.

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What is Most Important in Life? A Lesson from Tolstoy | Mindfulness and Psychotherapy

There is a story by Leo Tolstoy of a king who had everything he needed, but he had three questions that nagged at him.

What is the right time to do any one thing?

Who are the right people to listen to and work with?

What is the most important thing to do at all times?

He figured that if he knew the answers to these questions, he would be free of any anxiety and never have any issues.

He called upon all his countrymen to a contest to see if anyone had the answers. Hundreds of people came in.

For the first question there were a variety of answers. Some people told him he needed to fill out a calendar and follow it to the tee and then he would know what the right thing to do was. Others had other theories.

For the second question, again, some people listed religious leaders; others said he needed a wise counsel to rely on, while others said the military is who he should surround himself with.

The third answer brought similar responses from science to religion to the military.

Underwhelmed by all these responses, the king dressed in peasant clothing and walked up to visit a wise hermit on top of the mountain, for he may have the answer.

The hermit was busy plowing a garden and the king said, “Excuse me, wise hermit, you do not know me, but I have come to ask you three questions.”

After asking the questions the hermit smiled, patted him on the back, and continued on. The king soon saw that the hermit looked tired and offered to help and began plowing himself. After some time, the king asked the questions again and was interrupted by the sight of a naked man running through the hills with blood spilling from his stomach.

The bleeding man made his way to the hermit and king and the king swept into action and began tearing his own shirt to dress this man’s wound. The hermit and king went to lay the man down to rest in the cave where the hermit stayed and the king’s eyes began to close from exhaustion.

When he awoke he saw the man lying next to him and the man said, “Please forgive me.”

“What have you done that needs forgiveness my son,” said the king.

He continued, “You do not know me, but I was your enemy and after the last war you took my house and killed my brother. I came here for revenge to kill you, and had been waiting for you down the hill for quite some time. But after you didn’t show up, I decided to run out from where I was, but your men found me and gave me this wound. If it wasn’t for you, I would have died out there, so please forgive me and I will be in your debt forever. The king was surprised how easy it was to reconcile with a former enemy and pledged to give the man his house and land back. The man then went on his way.

The hermit came back in the cave and the king once again asked him these three questions to which the hermit replied, “You already know the answer.”

The king gave him a confused look.

The hermit said, “Don’t you see, if you didn’t take pity on me yesterday and help me plow the garden, you would have been attacked by that man and likely died. So the most important time was with me helping me plow those gardens and I was the most important man to be with and to do this good deed was the most important thing to do at the time. After this, the most important time was dressing the wound of that man, for if you had not done that he would have died and you would have never made peace with him. So he was the most important person to be with and what you did for him was the most important thing to do.

So what can you take away from Tolstoy’s story today? We are all looking for the next best thing or the most important thing to be doing and what we often don’t realize is that maybe what we’re doing RIGHT NOW is actually the most important time and who we’re with is the most important person and what we’re doing in the moment is the most important thing to do.

I received this story in my in box today and wanted to share it in it’s full length. How would you answer the three questions?

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Are You The Man You Would Want To Meet?

Are we the guys that we speak of in our meet-up-gone-wrong stories or the ones hailed as the cool guys?

Wow! Now hear is a article to make you “pause and go hmmmmm.” Men have been accused of having double standards as fare a woman, it would do us good to look at our self and see if we hold double standards for each other. I think the title of this article really gets the point home. Who do we want to be as we explore new ways in which we can be men in relationship with other men?

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Sexual Minority Identity Development – Psychiatric Times

A very grounded article on sexual identity development from a reputed Journal. the major points to take away are these:
Sexual minority adolescents due to fear of stigma, and rejection can lead to the use of compartmentalization as a defense
Their is a difference in the context of identity development between males and females.
The age of self identifying has decreased over the last 10 years.
Youths with same sex orientations are twice as likely to report suicide attempts/ideation and more likely to abuse alcohol, feel hopeless, depressed and victimized
Adolescents are attuned to the clinician’s attitudes and anxieties.
Allow the adolescent to explore all dimensions of his/her sexuality
Sexual attraction may vary and shift over time
Assess real and perceived supports
Help family members explore the meaning of the young person’s sexuality in relation to their own self view.

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