Even men who don’t consider themselves materialistic, can be absolutely greedy with their time. But while holding tightly to our time and resources seems in the moment to protect our happiness, in the long run, this selfishness cankers our souls. The more tightly we hold to things, the less we enjoy them. Selfishness makes us needlessly bitter and contemptible, never feeling like we have enough, always worried that someone is going to take away our stuff. In not sharing of our time, talents, and resources, we end up feeling empty, not full. Service should thus be a part of every man’s life, lest he along with Ebenezer Scrooge should despair, “Not to know that no space of regret can make amends for one life’s opportunity misused! Yet such was I! Oh! Such was I!

Day 20

Men are reluctant to pay a visit to the man in the white coat. Studies have shown that more than half of the men in the United States have not been to see a doctor in the past year. And 55% of men admit that they are reluctant to visit the doctor. When we do go, we usually wait until we’re missing an arm or have a javelin stuck through our head.

Day 19

Here’s an easy (and free) way to help researchers develop HIV drugs: Simply donate your personal computer’s unused processing power—in other words, let it crunch some data for scientists when you’re not using it. Researchers from FightAIDS@Home explain how logging on to this program may lead to newer drugs, faster.

such a simple yet powerful way to help the fight. the more computers, the quicker the cures.

N.U.T.s are your Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms. N.U.T.s are the things you’re committed to, the things that matter more than anything else: your kids, your career, your primary relationships, yourself, your purpose, your spiritual practice, your hobbies, your integrity, your morals and your psychological well-being.

Day 18
Identifying your values or Non-negotiable, can be hard when a blank piece of paper is looking back at you. The 6 questions to ask your self are a good starting point to get you thinking

Men who have more friends tend to be happier and live longer than men who don’t have any good buddies. Many men, myself included, find making new friends to be a difficult task. But there are potential man friends all around us if we would just get out of our comfort zone and start talking to some strangers. The dude who comes into the gym at the same time as you everyday? Potential workout partner. The guy who has an office down the hall from you? A golf buddy

DAY 17

I’ve had an on again, off again thing with budgets. But when I’ve used them, my financial situation always improved. Of course, what ends up happening is that I get lazy, stop making time to review my budget, and fall back into just sort of winging it with my finances. While I don’t start spending like a high roller, I’ve noticed that when I’m not following a  budget, my financial situation stagnates and doesn’t improve.

Day 16
Wish i could say some thing more to the point, but the above quote states it better than i could ever put it.

I have been using Mint for a while and do find it a great program to use.

However, we know less about the underlying issues leading people like Tom, Mark and Sean to become addicted to crystal meth. What suffering leads them to lose themselves in the cycles of acting out, escapism and, sometimes, alienation? Maybe the most important components of the crystal meth phenomenon are the least talked about: homophobia and internalized homophobia. Both the prejudiced attitude towards us for our different sexual orientations, and the way we’ve internalized that attitude, results into lowering our sense of self-esteem, self-respect and self-worth.

This is a very good article that looks at some of the underlying issues that cause Crystal Meth to be so wide spread in the gay community.

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Some, but not all of us, are aware when something turns us on. We might find ourselves just slightly more tuned in, or note a change in our bodies. It might be sudden and shocking or slow and subtle. Whether you’re aware of it or not, how often do you spend time thinking about why something turns you on? What it is, specifically, that gets you hot? And when was the last time you shared those thoughts with a partner?

This is a great exercise for gay men and male couples. Men are certainly sexual creatures and visually oriented, but often men do not have a clear ideas as to what behind their attractions. This is a great exercise for men to so some self-discovery around their sexual arousal and then to share it with a partner.

You can also find more great resources at RMarcAndrews.com

Day 15

This one is just fun.

There are very specific things about that these open relationships that are monogamous — safe sex, emotional primacy … really, anything that’s been negotiated in advance. Indeed, monogamy often comes down to a matter of degrees, even in mutually exclusive relationships. Where one couple draws the line of innocent flirting is not where another couple would draw the line. I like that an open relationship allows freedom to design a long-term connection precisely the way it works best for those involved.

While this article is a commentary on research that is about to come out in the next couple of months. The author does a very good job in a short amount of space summing up many of the facts that support open relationships being yet another form of monogamy.