It scares us to feel disconnected from those we love; yet it also scares us when the other does not see, and value, who we are and the unique contributions we yearn to bring to life and key relationships. Upsetting emotions, when not regulated, release high levels of stress hormones in the body.

Like other parts of the nervous system, the sympathetic nervous system operates through a series of interconnected neurons. Fortunately, it works in complementary fashion, as a team and not opposition, with the parasympathetic nervous system.

Whereas the sympathetic is an instant response that prepares you to have extraordinary strength to fight or flee, and the parasympathetic nervous system, in contrast, is a gradual response that restores a relative balance to the energies of your body and mind. We can learn to regular anger and fear in ways that we calm our mind and body.

The gift of listening to one another for understanding, when applied skillfully, is one of the most powerful regulators of fear.

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In one study of 31 men (who were, oddly enough, all recruited from a solicitation on “classic rock radio broadcasts”) the researchers found that while all scents had a positive impact on sexual arousal, certain smells impacted penile blood flow more than others. What smell got guys most hot and bothered? Pumpkin pie and lavender topped the charts, increasing penile blood flow and average of 40% compared to their base line state. Here are some of the other scents and how they measured up (taken from the Foundation website):

• Lavender and pumpkin pie: 40%
• Doughnut and black licorice: 31.5%
• Doughnut and cola: 12.5%
• Lily of the valley: 11%
• Buttered popcorn: 9%

Have a happy Thanksgiving!!!!!

There are many organizations and small businesses out there that recognize the value of multiple bottom lines beyond simply profit. Building an inspiring work culture and investing in the health and development of their people is an additional priority for long-term business success.

Research supports that certain positive psychological outcomes relate to greater organizational outcomes. Positive emotions and related processes can lead to greater motivation, fulfillment with work, and the ability to cope with stress and uncertainty.

Take a look at how there tools may help you
1) Strengths, virtues, and self-determination
2) Emotional intelligence
3) Psychological capital and positive organizational behavior
4) Level of innovation and change
5) The virtuous organization

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This therapy group’s goal is to increase self-esteem as it relates to your identity as a gay male. In it, we address the childhood and societal wounds that can contribute to suppressing vital parts of your true sexuality. The intent of the group is to provide a safe, supportive atmosphere where gay men can begin to heal conflicts and issues dealing with their parents, their family, sexual abuse (both overt and covert), addictions (substance and behavioral), and other trauma that can contribute to internalized homophobia and sexual shame.

I wanted to let every one know that I will be starting a group for gay men in January. If you or someone you know night benefit from this please contact me or pass this on to others.

503-583-2037
rma@rmarcandrews.com

mindfulness has four key components that may account for its effects: attention regulation, body awareness, emotion regulation, and sense of self.

Together, these components help us attend to and deal with the mental and physiological effects of stress in ways that are non-judgmental, researchers said. Although the components are unique, they are closely intertwined.

For example, improvement in attention regulation may help us be aware of our physiological state while body awareness, in turn, helps us to recognize the emotions we are experiencing.

A better understanding of the relationships between these components, and the brain mechanisms that underlie them, will allow clinicians to better prescribe mindfulness interventions for their patients.

Hölzel believes this framework underscores the point that mindfulness is not a vague cure-all. Indeed, successful practice of mindfulness meditation requires training and practice. As the technique is mastered, it has a distinct measurable effect on our subjective experiences, our behavior, and our brain function.

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There are two seasonal patterns with SAD. One starts in the fall and continues through the winter, and the other starts in late spring or early summer. The fall-onset type of SAD, often referred to as “winter depression,” is better known and easier to recognize — and we know more about it than we know about its counterpart.

The fall is a great time of year in Portland. We begin to move from the sometimes frantic pace of summer — when we are all trying to get as much sun and fun as we can — to the rhythms of school, work and family. It also means shorter days, and less sun, and increases in Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).

Some treatments that are effective in dealing with SAD:
*Take 2,000 IU’s of Vitamin D each day.
*Get out side each day for at least 10 minutes, preferable in the morning.
*Use light therapy in the morning and early evening.

All the above should be done under the guidance of a mental health provider to get the greatest benefit out of treatment.

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