o determine if you are a victim of gay abuse, you must evaluate your relationship and your partner’s actions. It can be difficult to accept that you are a victim of abuse. Some warning signs include being afraid of your partner’s anger or emotions, making decisions based on your partner’s reacts, feeling threatened or blamed for all of the relationship problems, or any other forceful situation that makes you uncomfortable.Here’s how to get help:

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Time Required: Varies

Here’s How:

1. Talk with someone you trust, such as an exclusive friend, family member or gay-affirmative therapist.
2. Keep an overnight bag or emergency kit nearby just in case you need to leave your relationship. Include an extra set of toiletries, clothes and other essentials.
3. Always remember that it’s not your fault and you deserve to be treated with respect. It’s easy to convince yourself that you are being abused out of love, but that is only a fabrication. True love is based on respect and healthy boundaries, not fear, intimidation or violence.
4. Finally, call 800.799.SAFE or email AV*@la****.org. Your call is confidential and they will be able to assist you in this time of crisis.

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