Author Archives: R. Marc Andrews

The Way We Live Now – What Gay Parenting Teaches Us All – NYTimes.com

children of same-sex parents are not markedly different from those of heterosexual parents. They show no increased incidence of psychiatric disorders, are just as popular at school and have just as many friends.

It’s great to find a well-researched, accessible article like this in public media.

You can also find more information at rmarcandrews.com.

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What is Most Important in Life? A Lesson from Tolstoy | Mindfulness and Psychotherapy

There is a story by Leo Tolstoy of a king who had everything he needed, but he had three questions that nagged at him.

What is the right time to do any one thing?

Who are the right people to listen to and work with?

What is the most important thing to do at all times?

He figured that if he knew the answers to these questions, he would be free of any anxiety and never have any issues.

He called upon all his countrymen to a contest to see if anyone had the answers. Hundreds of people came in.

For the first question there were a variety of answers. Some people told him he needed to fill out a calendar and follow it to the tee and then he would know what the right thing to do was. Others had other theories.

For the second question, again, some people listed religious leaders; others said he needed a wise counsel to rely on, while others said the military is who he should surround himself with.

The third answer brought similar responses from science to religion to the military.

Underwhelmed by all these responses, the king dressed in peasant clothing and walked up to visit a wise hermit on top of the mountain, for he may have the answer.

The hermit was busy plowing a garden and the king said,

Sexual Minority Identity Development – Psychiatric Times

A very grounded article on sexual identity development from a reputed Journal. the major points to take away are these:
Sexual minority adolescents due to fear of stigma, and rejection can lead to the use of compartmentalization as a defense
Their is a difference in the context of identity development between males and females.
The age of self identifying has decreased over the last 10 years.
Youths with same sex orientations are twice as likely to report suicide attempts/ideation and more likely to abuse alcohol, feel hopeless, depressed and victimized
Adolescents are attuned to the clinician

Gay Middle School Kids Face Abuse | Best Gay Blogs

9 out 10 gay middle school kids face abuse! More than 9 out of 10 Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender American middle school students have said they experienced harassment at school in the past year simply because of their sexual orientation.

This report makes me think of what it was like when I was in high school, back in the day. Just starting to understand my feeling towards other boys, fearing to talk to my parents or school personal about the harassment because it would cause me to expos