Therapy can be tricky. Before even walking in the door for their first appointment, many people already have a variety of preconceived notions. And these beliefs can become blocks in treatment, interfering with the therapeutic process.
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Loneliness is not only emotionally painful; it can harm your health. It’s a risk factor for a host of problems: high blood pressure; sleep problems; decreased ability to deal with the stress of daily life; and the body’s reduced ability to handle inflammation, leading to conditions such as atherosclerosis, rheumatoid arthritis, and tendinitis, as well as a weakened immune system, so you’re more susceptible to illness. Researchers have yet to identify the exact ways these health problems occur, but they know that loneliness seems to make them worse.
How to cure loneliness
Get out and about. You don’t have to be best friends with someone to benefit from interaction. Amity Brown, who is separated from her husband, takes walks around her neighborhood, smiling at people she passes. “When I started getting to know the neighborhood and the people around me, I felt like part of a community,” she says.
Be selective about making friends. Hawkley points out that if you’re desperate for relationships, you may be willing to tolerate unacceptable treatment. Now that Brown is feeling more stable, she says, “I’m more careful when I choose my friends to make sure they’re low-drama.”
Stay positive. Lonely people tend to expect rejection, which makes it more likely to happen. Social cognitive therapy can help people reframe their thoughts about how others see them.
Here are some suggestions for experiencing more positive emotions and thus greater self-esteem.
1) Cultivate compassion
2) Let go of the past and stay present
3) Be kind to others
4) Build optimism
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outh and beauty are qualities women are typically judged on, while men trade on their economic status. Thus, traditionally, heterosexual men and women each know where they stand in the dating game. But in the gay world, youth, beauty and economic status often intermingle, so it becomes particularly difficult for some gay men to not only understand their position in a relationship, but also to refrain from judging, making assumptions or growing defensive when labels such as
Meditation functions by increasing people
Sexual labeling is commonplace, amongst all gay men, but black gay men seem to take it to another level. These days we have tops, total tops, oral tops, vers tops, versatile, vers bottom, bottom, total bottom and all kinds of deranged derivatives thereof. I say deranged, because most of the time black gay and bisexual men refer to themselves, using their label du jour, they are lying. Simply put, a lot of us are living in a deep state of denial.
I though that this was a good blog and spoke to some important issues, and yes sensitive issues.
Today I was afraid. I fully expected to get my ass kicked and it was all because of my t-shirt. A simple, black tshirt that says
Compassion. Gratitude. Conscientiousness. Being humble. A little stress to keep you energized and motivated. Using common sense. Hanging out with the people that are doing healthy things. Having a stable relationship.
This is really all it takes.
